Lesson one -Facing Anger and Temper

Do you have a temper?  Do you get angry easily?  Do you lose control?   Is it even embarrassing to you later? Listen to what Colossians 3:8 says
” But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.” A hot temper and uncontrollable anger is such a devastating sin….

  • I have seen it tear homes apart…
  • Marriages have been destroyed….
  • It has destroyed business relationships…
  • Cost people their careers..
  • It has ruined relationships between relatives and family members…
  • It has caused people to leave their church and friends they have had at that church for years….
  • It has lead to violence, prison, and even murder!
The closest thing I can compare an uncontrollable temper and anger to is a TORNADO!  We had one around here recently and it didn’t last long but it sure left a lot of devastation… Not only can anger be such a devastating sin, it is also a HEINOUS sin….Because…it reveals the animal nature of a person!  Many people are charming and likeable until……the least little things sets them off into a fit of rage….and this ‘nice’ person is transformed into an irrational creature more like a WILD BEAST!
Do you know anyone like that? This is the Bad type of STUBBORN anger I am talking about…
Now there is a good type of anger….
  • There are some things we should be angry about….
  • When evil is done, we should be angry..
  • When innocent people or children are done wrong we should be angry…
Recall Jesus was angry in Mark 3:5 at the Pharisees…
“And when he had looked round about on them with anger, being grieved for the hardness of their hearts, he saith unto the man, Stretch forth thine hand. And he stretched it out: and his hand was restored whole as the other.”
*By the way, as a side note, here is a good reason to avoid the newer Bible Versions and stay with the trusted King James Bible.  In Matthew 5:21,22 Jesus said,  “…Whosever is angry with his brother without a cause is in danger of the judgment…”
The New International Perversion (I mean ‘version’) omits that crucial phrase ‘without a cause’ and reads ‘…whosever is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment’… That changes that verse to imply that Jesus was a sinning and subject to judgment!  Who says the new Bible don’t change anything!

Recall when Jesus got angry and drove the money changers out of the temple…
So some ‘controlled’ anger is good….
But we’re looking at the stubborn type of bad anger that results in uncontrollable rage or resentment…and it is wrong.

The Bible has alot to say about this type of stubborn anger.  Let’s lick our fingers and look at some verses in Proverbs on this topic….
  1. 14:29 He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly. If you want to be wise and successful in life in general, you had better learn to control your temper.
  2. 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. We have got to learn to control our mouth!  It can get us in trouble so easily….If you want to stir things up and get into a lot of trouble, your ‘grievous words’ can sure get you into trouble!
  3. 15:18 A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife. Do you want trouble and strife down at the job, or at church, or in your marriage?  Stubborn anger and a hot-head temper can sure do it!
  4. 16:32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. If you and I have self-control over our anger, it will get us far in life and we can avoid a lot of trouble!
  5. 19:11 The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression. We have just got to learn to minor things go….and not get so upset over them.  People have caused themselves trouble over such insignificant and minor things!
  6. 19:19 A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again. Your temper is going to get you in trouble sooner or later.  You can mark it down.
  7. 20:2 The fear of a king is as the roaring of a lion: whoso provoketh him to anger sinneth against his own soul. One of these days, you’re going to smart off to the wrong person and they’re going to explain some things to you that you don’t want explained…..
  8. 22:24,25  Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:  Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul. The Bible even says to not even be friends with a hot-head…. You will learn their ways and it will rub off on you1 This is why parents should be so careful to control their temper around their kids…because they will learn that trait from their parents….
  9. 29:22,23 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.  A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.
Anger and temper has caused STRIFE in marriages and in churches….and in offices……and the list could go on and on….. Often we become angry and let our temper blow because of pride!  We feel we’ve been wronged, or we didn’t get our way… Now move over to Ecclesiastes 7:9  “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.” Here the Bible calls a hot-tempered man who can’t control his anger a FOOL!
Someone says, “Preacher, I don’t like you calling me a fool…” I didn’t call you a fool….God did! Okay we we  summarize what we have learned in the next lesson

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