Nigeria Man stabs friend to death for allegedly befriending wife

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ABEOKUTA — A middle-aged man identified as Wasiu Yusuf has been arrested by the Ogun State Police Command for allegedly stabbing his bosom friend, Adeolu Olatoye,  to death for having clandestine relationship with his wife.

Codewit world News gathered that the incident which occurred at Oke-Efon area of  Abeokuta, Saturday  night,  was reportedly  carried out by the  suspect and one  accomplice identified as Mukaila, said to be on the run as at the time of this report.

It was further gathered that the suspect lost his temperament when he reportedly caught  his 32 -year-old  friend  with his wife on the day of the incident on his matrimonial bed.

The suspect, according to the findings, laid siege for the victim who reportedly came  to his house, and in the ensuing scuffle,the victim erroneously stabbed himself.

But another version of the story had it that, the victim had gone to his friend’s house to drop an invitation card of his mother’s 80th birthday scheduled  for Saturday when the friend attacked him with bottles.

Adeolu, a graphic artist, met his death barely two weeks after he held the naming ceremony of his child.

His  remains had been  deposited at the State Hospital Mortuary at Ijaiye, Abeokuta, as police await the autopsy report.

Contacted, Ogun State Police Command Public Relations, Muyiwa Adejobi, confirmed the incident and arrest of the suspect, adding that investigation was ongoing.

Speaking, the deceased’s elder brother, Akinyemi Olatoye, said he was shocked over the development, explaining that his late brother had gone there to drop their mother’s birthday invitation card

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Woman Wahala! Two friends in knife fight over woman

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An auto mechanic, Sesi Anumundu, was reported to have been stabbed several times on the head by his friend during a scuffle over a woman. Anumundu, a native of Delta State is said to be recuperating in an undisclosed clinic in Lagos. The 37-year-old was said to have engaged his childhood friend, Lati Adekoya, in a fierce fight over the latter’s lover, Fortune. The bloody event occurred on Tuesday, October 15, 2013.

Both Anumundu and Adekoya had reportedly been friends since their early childhood days at Adamasingba, Ibadan, Oyo State. When both came out of the secondary school, Anumundu relocated to Ibeshe, Lagos State with his uncle while Adekoya remained at Ibadan.

But it was said that because of their closeness, Adekoya always stayed in his friend’s Uncle’s house anytime he was in Lagos. Since Anumundu could not proceed to the tertiary level, he reportedly opted to learn auto mechanic while Adekoya reportedly secured admission into one of the Polytechnics in the South South region of the country.

At the time he was in school, Adekoya often times spend his breaks in Lagos with Anumundu, who by then, had already secured a room apartment for himself at Ogijo, via Ikorodu in Ogun State. In one of his visits to Anumundu last year, Adekoya was introduced to a woman, Fortune, by his friend.

Before long, Adekoya and Fortune became serious lovers to the knowledge of people in Anumundu’s neighbourhood. It was also reported that Fortune had twice visited Adekoya in school and on one such occasions, the latter had equally visited Fortune’s mother in Ughelli, Delta State. By 2012, Adekoya was through with his education and had to go for the one year national youth service in one of the North Eastern states of the country.

Because of the far distance to Lagos, Adekoya reportedly hardly come to Lagos during his service year. However, it was one of those rare occasions that he came to Lagos that he reportedly met Anumundu and Fortune naked in bed making love.

An eye witness told Saturday Mirror that a neighbor of Anumundu, who was also close to Adekoya had earlier intimated him of the amorous relationship between his bosom friend and his girlfriend.

The later always rubbished such claims and reportedly began to keep malice with the whistleblower. That was around June, 2013. When the news of the romance between his friend and Fortune became persistent, Adekoya had reportedly called his friend on phone one day to challenge him on the issue but he rebuffed the claim. The bubble, however, burst recently when Adekoya chose to come to his friend’s house for a break. It was said that Adekoya gave no one any inkling of his home-coming. Fortune, an auxiliary nurse at a private hospital in Ikorodu always had her off days on Tuesdays and Sundays.

So, it was on Tuesday, October 15, 2013 that Adekoya chose to come to see his friend. He neither informed his friend nor Fortune of his visit. On that fateful day, around 11:00a.m, when apparently no one was in Anumundu’s compound, Adekoya, who had arrived Lagos the previous night but stayed away from his friend’s house, suddenly bumped into Anumundu’s apartment. He reportedly met his friend and girlfriend stark naked, making love.

The youth corps member reportedly wasted no time in engaging his friend and the one that connected him and the woman in a heated war of words. Rather than show remorse, Anumundu chose to lambast his friend and reportedly ordered him out of his apartment. At that point, Adekoya could not hold back his anger; he descended on his friend. It was reported that during the fight, the youth corps member grabbed a knife on Anumundu’s shelve and cut the auto mechanic in several parts of his body. Fortune, in the interim, reportedly fled the scene while the two men fought each other.
Anumundu, on his own, collapsed on his sofa. Speaking on the incident, a neighbour, Mama Chinonso, claimed that Fortune was a regular visitor to the house but that she was not aware who her real lover was between the two friends.

“The lady comes here every time but I am surprised to hear that she was the other man’s girlfriend. We just moved into this area so I did not know that she was actually dating Adekoya. It was the noise of the lady running out of the compound that drew some people’s attention to the scene. By the time we got there, the man (Anumundu) had been stabbed several times and people around had to rush him to the hospital.”

Anumundu also spoke with reporters on phone. According to him, “I initially introduced him (Adekoya) to the lady but he told me he did not like her. After a while, the lady told me that she preferred to date me and we started”. Neither Adekoya, nor Fortune could be reached on phone as their mobile telephones were switched off.

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Indecent Exposure: Ladies deliberately looking for trouble?

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I have searched for one good reason why ladies of nowadays chooses to expose their bodies to public glare but cannot find any and yet they will be the first to accuse the guys of sexual harassment. Why won’t a guy harass you when you have decided to sell yourself cheap by dressing like a cheap whore.

 

Hear me ladies, if you want guys to respect and adore you, now is the time to show it through your dressing, tired of seeing half clad girls claiming responsible wife materials, who wants to marry a half naked girl as a wife, okay you ladies think the guys are dumb? Sorry to say this but you ladies are the dumb ones here, no guy is ready to take you home to Mama dressed like a hooker.
 

Just imagine the images below, even the so called celebrities are not left out, i think they are even the worst, no shame, so embarrassed to see some them expose some dilapidated stuffs in the name of fashion. Excuse me guys, think i am about to throw up. Enjoy the pics if you can

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Nigeria: Husband accuses wife of pouring hot water on him

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Abuja –  A 29 year-old woman, Esther Adie, of Angwan Doka, New Nyanya, Nasarawa State, appeared before a Mararaba Upper Area Court and charged with causing grievous hurt on her husband.

The Prosecutor, Insp. Joseph Ahua, said Esther attacked her husband with hot water following a misunderstanding.

Ahua told the court that the husband, David reported the matter at the New Nyanya Police Station on Oct.18.

He said: “when he managed to escape, she used a glass cup to inflict grievous injuries on his head.’’

The prosecutor said the offence contravened Sections 95 and 97 of the Penal Code and if convicted, the accused would be liable to 12 years imprisonment or with fine or with both.

She pleaded not guilty to the charge.

The Presiding Judge, Mr Vincent Gwehemba, admitted the accused to bail in the sum of N50, 000 with one surety in like sum.

Gwehemba ordered that the surety must live within the court’s jurisdiction and must have a reliable job.

He adjourned the case to Oct. 29 for further hearing

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A Girl Cut Her Friend With A Blade For Snatching Her Sugar Daddy

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A girl cuts her friend with a razor blade after she learnt her friend(neighbor) whom she introduced to her sugar daddy went behind her back to have sex
with her sugar daddy this was disclosed by an eye witness at the scene said this occurred yesterday 17th,September at Inikpi street, High level ,Makurdi ,
Benue State at about 11 am .I did not upload it immediately due to the fact that i wanted to get the whole story
first.

According to the eye witness , as the girl went to confront her friend and the whole issue blew out of hand.That led to the girl using a razor blade on her
friend and like that was not bad enough some witness at the scene took laws into their hands by stripping the girl who cut her friend naked…Ouch!
All this just for a sugar daddy whom may have other more girls hidden or may have a wife and kids lol i called it "just" but it doesn't seem like it was "just a sugar daddy" to this girls if they could risk their lives for him.

It was gathered from a reliable source, that at the scene of this disgraceful incidence was based on assumptions by witnesses and the fight did not erupt because the girl snatched her friends sugar daddy rather, it was because the girl bleeding from the cut insulted the other girls mother calling
her an ashawo (prostitute). This led to this violent fiery argument and eventually assault on both feuding parties. The whole incidence was
controversial and inhumane but some things were clear about the story ,two girls got into a heated argument, one was deeply cut by the other girl using a
razor blade and passerby and witnesses took laws into their own hands by stripping the other girl naked and beating her.

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ROMANCE: She raises her voice whenever she’s angry – Chico Ejiro

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Chico Ejiro is one of the most prolific Nollywood producers who has become a household name in Nigeria and beyond. He met his wife, Joy, in 1994, and wedded her in 1998.They have four children. Zeb Ejiro, the best-known of the new Nigerian cinema auteurs outside of the country, and Peter Red Ejiro, another Nigerian movie producer are his two elder brothers. Chico and his wife take us through the journey of their marriage.

Married for 15 years I am married to Joy Ejiro and our marriage is blessed with four kids. I have been married for fifteen years now. I studied Agriculture in the university and I will be 60 years on the 15th of October. I have been in Nollywood since 1987. I met my wife in 1994, at The University of Lagos when I organised a show with my boss then, Opa Williams. She was still a student then, but we got married in 1998.

Attraction
She understands the entertainment industry very well. In relationship, she understands what it takes to build a lasting relationship. It was her ability to understand me and my job. You know, I encounter a lot of people in the cause of my job, especially females, so she has to learn how to tolerate a lot of situations like that. She is also very compassionate, if I don’t have, she supports me.

My wife is a very understanding woman. There is no marriage that doesn’t have hiccups, but as a couple, you have to learn the chemistry between yourselves and do not allow anyone to come in between you. If you have a quarrel, settle it yourselves because there is no marriage that is perfect. My wife is a costumier and runs a shop called: Real Colours. When I started movie production, she was my costumier too and I brought her in, to work with me on some of my early shoots like like “ Daybreak and Full Moon.” These are some of the qualities that attracted me to her.

Proposal
It wasn’t easy and that’s why I said,we dated for some years before we got married. Like I said earlier, we met in 1994, and got married four years after, in 1998.

What marriage has taught me
Marriage has taught me a lot of things; it has taught me how to handle family issues; care for my family. It has also taught me how to love my wife because if you don’t show love to your wife, your marriage is bound to have a crack. You must learn to be open to your spouse and if it’s possible, you should operate a joint account with her; learn to apologise to your spouse whenever you feel that you have erred. There are a lot of things you must know. First of all, you must be patient enough to tolerate each other. Then, you must also learn how to communicate. Both of you must be God-fearing and learn how to plan ahead.

Stronghold of my marriage
It is the understanding that two of us share together. Once there is understanding, we will resolve our differences amicably without allowing a third party to intervene in our matters. This is where communication, understanding and forgiveness come about in marriage. There is also the need for husband and wife to hear the word of God as frequently as possible. Marriage is a very difficult institution, but with understanding and tolerance, many marriages are made in heaven. Most marriages crash today because there is lack of understanding between the man and the woman.

What she means to me
She means everything to me. In my next life, I will look for her and marry her again.

What I hate about Her
Nobody is perfect. I don’t hate anything about her. But once in a while, when she gets angry she raises her voice. I have complained over the years, and I think, she has stopped it because it happened during the early stage of our marriage.

Family violence
I’m not in support of family violence. Whenever my wife offences me, I usually go to a nearby relaxation centre to watch football. I’m the chairman of Arsenal FC, in Nigeria. I could stay away throughout the day and when I return to the house, she will be begging me. There are several ways you can show your wife that she has offended you. Punching her will not be the solution. My mother did not abuse me as a child for one day, why should I beat up my wife?

 

Five things that lead to break up
Lack of understanding between the man and the woman; infidelity, keeping extra-martial affairs; allowing the third party to interfere in your marriage;pressure from the outside and above all, when God is not invited in your marriage. Hearing the word of God will instigate the spirit of forgiveness in the mind of the married couple.

His love for football takes the shine from his family— Wife

How I met Him
We started out as friends, and we dated for four years before we got married. I met in 1994, in UNILAG. There was a show they stage there and I attended the show. When he saw me, he approached me and told me that he wants to be my friend. I frowned at his request, wondering how what he said has got to do with why I have come to watch the show. But after much persuasion, I accepted his request.

Accepting His Proposal
It happened like a joke, I give God the glory. The thing just flowed and one day, he said, ‘I want to marry you,’ and I said ‘just like that.’ That was it.

After 15 years of marriage
Marriage has been sweet because my husband is my friend. I think that makes it easier for me. Yes, we disagree over a lot of issues but at the end of the day, we resolve our differences amicably. Disagreement is normal in marriage.

What I hate About Him
Nothing, but it’s just that he likes to watch football. Each time, he returns home, he usually turn on the television set and get glued to it without talking to anybody. It brings quarrel in the house.

Worried about female His admirers
I don’t get worried because I know that at the end of the day, he belongs to me. We can’t do without talking to each other every minute on the telephone. Anything that is happening now, I will be the first to call him just as he will be the first to call if anything is happening around him.

If I have to marry Again
I will marry him because he is the only person that can tolerate me.

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Is it Possible to Predetermine a “Genius” at Conception?

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I am sure I will not be able to thank you enough because of the inestimable value of knowledge you have by your publication of September 25th, 2004 in THISDAY, The Saturday Newspaper titled, “How to Determine the Sex of Your Baby” impacted on me.

I want to state that by this creative, mastering and wonderful piece, you would have solved more than one million and one questions in the minds of most men and women who have been fortunately and unfortunately caught red-handed in the life threatening cycle of self-imposed search for either male or female child.   

I would like to find out if there can be scientific proof/support for these or if they can be said to be true at all:

Does the time of sex with your wife in anyway influence the behaviour of the unborn baby if that particular meeting resulted in pregnancy?  I am asking this question because I read in a book whose title and author I cannot readily remember now that if for example you make love to your wife in the early hours of a new day, the resultant pregnancy (babies) whether male or female are always followers of other people’s idea. In other words, that they do not always initiate their independent ideas whereas those who make love between the hours of 10pm and 2pm that resulted in pregnancy will always have children who will turn out to be geniuses (initiators of ideas and great leaders).  Is this true? 

My prayer is that God will continue to endow you with more and more grace, knowledge ability and the determination to do more on this page and others so that more and more people will have the privilege of benefiting from your vast knowledge and teachings.
Sylvester

Dear Sylvester,

Your letter above was quite flattering and definitely encouraging.
Meanwhile, I beg to differ with the postulation that the time of sexual mating during the day has a relationship with giving birth to children that will end up as predetermined followers or initiators of ideas.

Such postulations are part of the idealist conception of events and developments in general, which have no scientific bearings whatsoever.  What we become, socially speaking, later in life is more of how we have been nurtured by our environment. In general, ideas that we communicate outside are processed outputs of what was previously injected into us from the society. Nobody brings any de novo idea from “heaven”; all brilliant ideas have basic building blocks from some previously existing ideas.

Hence, mating during the night or day will make no difference in the pregnancy and birth of a genius or one that simply follows others, for that matter.

This also reminds me of those cultures, where the belief is that day-time mating commonly results in the birth of male child whilst the converse is true for the female child; that is, mating around midnight will lead to the conception of a female child.

Just as I have written on this column in the past, the prospective sex of a child is not predetermined by the time of the day or the period of the year for that matter.

Although, some timing is involved, it is not with regard to timing of day and night but a biological clock in the lady’s body, which correspond to her peculiar monthly cycle. This is the only physical timing that is relevant to which sex a baby in the making might take.

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Infidelity: Housewife jailed 3 months

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A teenage housewife, Blessing Bisala, is to spend three months behind bars for cheating on her husband.

An Abuja Magistrate Court, yesterday, found Bisala, 19, guilty of having “unlawful” sexual relationship with her 34-year-old lover (names withheld).

Bisala was convicted after she pleaded guilty to the charge of adultery, for which she was arraigned by the police, while the lover pleaded not guilty.

She said: “My Lord, I am guilty of cheating on my husband. I want the court to pardon me.”

Magistrate Fati Tafida ruled: “Based on the admittance of the accused to committing the crime, and the evidence before the court, she is, hereby, sentenced to three months in prison, with an option of N1,000 fine, as a first offender.”

Earlier, police prosecutor, Insp. Phillip Appolos, had said that the convict’s husband, reported the matter at the Life Camp Police Station on September 1.

He alleged that the convict’s husband caught her in the act in a guest house in Life Camp, Abuja and immediately alerted a police patrol team attached to Life Camp Division.

He said the team, led by Insp. Abdul Ogbe, arrested the two lovers and brought them to the police station.

Appolos said that the offence contravened the provisions of Section 387 and 388 of the Penal Code.

Magistrate Tafida admitted the convict’s lover to bail in the sum of N100,000, with a reliable surety, and adjourned the case to September 23, to enable the court continue with the trial of the lover

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What we did Behind closed doors

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HI, WE have all experienced it at some point. That rush of adrenalin when we are engaged in something exciting or dangerous. Some people live by it and sometimes allow it to take over their sense of judgement, staking everything they stand for. How far will you go for a quick rump in the sack? How much will you stake for a few minutes of pleasure? Do you really know when to call it off when things begin to get out of hand? It is assumed that most people would cheat on their partners at some point or another, it is those who allow themselves to get caught that do not know how to play the game.

Our opening story featured the secret affair of a young, married lady with the husband of her older friend and benefactor. The cat was let out of the bag when the older woman mistakenly took her husband’s mobile phone out for the day. So, while the treacherous young friend thought she was chatting with her friend’s husband, the messages where actually being received by her friend seated next to her.
Our second story featured Adeola, who dated her friends rich cousin and befriended his wife just to remove suspicion. Today, Philomena, (28), narrates how she began dating her direct boss at the office. Why did they end relationship? find out below as she shares her story. Don’t forget that you can also be a part of this column by sending us your contribution if you or someone you know of, have been through a similar experience. Feel free also to send in any story of your choice so long as it is based on a true life experience. Happy reading!  

Philomena’s story:  
IT was very exciting, at least, at the beginning. However, I did not really think it was worth all the fuss that we had to put up with just to be together. It is a different case if one was dating a sugar daddy. At least, you will know that the reason you are sneaking around is because of his wife and family. and in return, you will be compensated in some way for your thoughtfulness. But in this case, it was not so. He was not a sugar daddy, maybe I should call him a “lolly pop” like my friends did.

He was in his mid 30s, married with two handsome boys and we both work in the same office. In fact, he was my direct boss and if people did notice that there was something funny between us, no one asked me directly, so I cannot really confirm that we did not keep it a secret properly.

We started as friends and got along very well as he used to grant me some special considerations from time to time. On several occasions, he’d taken me out for lunch and been particularly nice to me at official functions, one of which was where I’d met his wife. She was a very sweet,lovable woman and we took to each other like sisters.I called her aunty as she was older than me.

Over time, he began to gist me about his wife, where they spent their weekends, his in-laws, you know that kind of thing. sometimes when they have little disagreements, he would tell me about it and ask why women behave in that manner. In turn, I used to discuss my relationship with him. sometimes, I gist him about who and who I met and was asking me out.

I also discuss my boyfriend at the time with him. Often I would discuss his escapades and how I’m always catching him cheating on me. He would always offer advice like an older friend. He used to drop me off at home after office hours, so, we would be together until late in the night. I shared a flat in Surulere with two other girls, so, there was actually no one to stop us from doing whatever we wanted to do.

By the time we began dating, it came as a shock to me too. This is because I had come to the conclusion that we were just friends and fond of each other. I knew his girlfriend and he knew my boyfriend.

In my confusion at the time, I had to confide in a friend at the office as well as seek the opinions of my flatmates.
I was surprised that they all gave their consent almost immediately, even expressing surprise that we were not already romantically involved. That all these while, they had concluded that we were actually dating, or that we would eventually do so. With the encouragement of my friends that I had nothing to worry about as the wife would be the last person to suspect that nothing like that could be happening between us. Moreso, we were talking about access to large amounts of material gains.

In fact, the affair was neatly times because we had just recently called it off with our relationships, mine due mainly from his advice that the guy was taking advantage of me.

By the time we started, there was not much difference from what we had been doing together. The only addition was the sexual part of it. He would spend the weekend virtually at my place. Friday nights we spend at the club and would go home after dropping me off on Saturday morning.

Then, in the evenings, he would come along with his boys to take me out. Sometimes, we would just stay at my place and I would do the cooking. It appeared the children understood the rules of the game and played along as if they were already experts.

Their coming to my place was not a secret as often, their mother would send them to me and that meant that she was aware of their movements. On a couple of occasions, she’d had cause to send them over for the weekend at my place whenever she was traveling out of town and could not find anyone to stay with the children.  She loved partying and had many friends, so, she is never at home most weekends. I soon discovered that the two were one of a kind. If she had lovers too, it would not come as a surprise.

However, tongues soon began wagging at the office about the relationship and we were forced to start being a little discreet about our movements. We stopped leaving the premises together as we used to. Sometimes, I would go with someone else or walk to the bus stop and wait for him to pick me there. That way, it would not really look like we were leaving together but like he was giving me a ride. It was then that I started thinking about the futility of what we were doing together. I began feeling terribly guilty and ashamed of myself for engaging in something as deceitful as that. I was not only betraying the trust of his wife, now my friend and their two boys who had now become so fond of me, but was also doing myself harm.

For, the more I followed him around, the more I blocked my chances of meeting someone I could have a meaningful relationship with. Since I did not want to marry him, there was absolutely no reason for me to continue the hide and seek game we were doing.

Dear readers; comments, opinions and views on this issue are very much welcome. Please send contributions to: Codewit World News, .Email Address: personnel@codewit.com hoping to read from you soon

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What Men Need + What Women Want = World Without Men

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Men should at least pretend that women are part of the human race and should not be beaten, scarred or raped

I am sure you would like to know what that formula stands for, dear reader, but you will have to bear with me a little while I vent my anger and release it into space, or I might be forced to commit murder. On the other hand, I don’t want anything tampering with my housekeeping allowance. Indeed, I am so cross now my mouth is shut tight, my brows are in a deep scowl, and my eyes are so crossed they are literally looking at each other balefully. That is how mad I am about the spate of rapes weaving across the land: boys raping girls, men raping little girls, old men raping toddlers, young men raping old women, young men raping mad women, fathers raping daughters, fathers impregnating their daughters, fathers having multiple children by their daughters… Oh men, what is going on?! Why is it always the men?!

Not too long ago, one of my readers, presumably a male, wrote in and asked me to say something on the rising wave of rape in the land. Then, it had not quite risen to the popularity it has since assumed in the country. I declined to because I felt rape is really best left to the police while we citizens concentrate on searching for money to purchase gari. Alas, my thoughts were misplaced, just like my hopes. The police are too busy with em, internal problems, to take much notice of rape. In short the police have failed in their duty to sufficiently frighten the men into totally submitting their libidinal will to reason. So, I have no choice but to pick up my pen, err, computer.

True, there are natural expectations on both sides of the sex divide. Take the men; they expect their women to provide the 4Cs: cooking, cleaning, childbearing and companionship. They are What Men Need (WMN). As I always say, most men cannot boil water without burning it. And the woman who manages to burn food once in a year is taken to the cleaners. ‘Why is this food tasting burnt? Did you travel while you were cooking it? Do you know how much I worked to provide the money for it? You should go out and work and let me do the cooking.’ As Fela knew very well, ‘that na shakara’. Still, men take it for granted that women are taught these things in heaven before they descend to earth. That’s why they marry women who look like their mothers: they take the abilities in the chosen ones for granted because such women are primed to fulfil these needs for men. Who says cloning does not work? As soon as a female child is born, the father takes a good look at its arms to be sure they have sufficient crooks in them and the hips to be sure they are sufficiently wide enough and he nods to himself, ‘this one will fulfil her heavenly roles well.’ Obviously, men no longer see beyond their needs any more. Is this why some among them would even proceed to test their daughters’ role readiness by raping/sleeping with them? Haba! Please!

In the interest of peace, and also to maintain world order, women go along and provide men’s needs, believing that men in turn know what women want and provide it. Women take it for granted also that men are primed from heaven to fulfil the wants of women. This is why the birthing women take a good look at the arms of the new born male to be sure they have enough strength in them to actualise some woman’s wants someday. They also check if his fingers can crook well enough to cock a gun some day. Tough world we are in, no? The difference is that women only stay at ensuring; they do not test. At least, we have not heard of a woman who sets out to have children by her male son. I have not said it does not happen; I only said we have not heard. As a father said to his son one day, ‘I have not said ‘don’t steal’; just don’t get caught.’ Seriously.

The trouble is that, in spite of the strong arms and all, men still do not seem to know what women want. Once, men thought that if they dragged food home to the family, all would be right with the world. The women soon put them right there by dragging home sometimes bigger food. That’s why some women have come to now earn more than their husbands. Then the men thought if they built strong shelters for the family, keep out the wild elements and provide protection, all would be well. But the Cecilia Ibrus of this world soon set their minds at rest on that score. She and her ilk told them they could go hang with their shelters by procuring same in their hundreds. And I said ‘Tell ‘em, sister!’ No, no, don’t get me wrong; I do not condone fraud but there’s just something about that spirit… So now, men are at a loss as to what exactly women want. And you know, when men are confused, they resort to… The story goes that the women had taken over the administration of a certain city and, to the consternation of the men, were even preparing to go to war for the city. The men simply got together to hatch a plan. They collectively got all the women pregnant and went their own merry way to fight their war themselves.

Obviously now, there is an impasse: women know what men need (WMN) but men do not know what women want (WWW). To make up for their lack of knowledge and total confusion, men have been going around employing and displaying their strength in the market place. Imagine that. Good wine, they say, needs no bush. When a man begins to regard rape as an instrument of office and manhood, then he belongs in Jupiter where the people there do not ask questions, just like the early American settlers. Perhaps, that will mean evacuating all the men into outer space and have a world without men (WWM), who cares? If that is what we need to give the women what they want, then the price may be just right.

So, what do women want really? Oh, wouldn’t I just like to know! One day, all a woman wants is to look delectable, have the means to look delectable, and be seen and appreciated by her chosen one to look delectable. Another day, when the fancy takes her, what she wants is to be appreciated for her brains. So she barges into boardrooms and causes a war or takes over, into corporate offices and becomes the boss, or wanders into some poor government official’s heart and takes over his job. Ask our politicians. Naturally, the men’s retaliatory weapon of hate is rape. When that happens, you just know it is a statement against all womankind. This is why the women are calling for the heads of the men in the formula: WMN + WWW = WWM (What Men Need + What Women Want = World Without Men). If the women cannot get that, let us try the next best thing.

Let us try giving the female folk respect, from the littlest of them to the oldest. In this case, respect means consideration. Men should at least pretend that women are part of the human race and should not be beaten, scarred or raped. They should be treated with the utmost courtesy and nurtured carefully: i.e., given compliments, assistance, real love (not some pretentious thing) and companionship. After all, it is only wise to respect where one’s food comes from, especially if all one can do is burn water.

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Anthony-Claret Ifeanyi Onwutalobi

Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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