I want to set a trap for her

Dear Bunmi,

My girlfriend can’t stop flirting and I don’t trust her. She started seeing me when she was with another man and I don’t trust her to say no if another man comes along.

She says I’m being stupid and I’m the one she wants. I’m thinking of putting her commitment to the test by asking a mate to toast her.

If she goes out with him then I’ll  know I can’t trust her.

Do you think this is a good idea?

By e-mail

Dear Emeka,
Beware of what you’re doing because your lack of trust could destroy your relationship. If she rejects your friend then you may feel more confidence in her, but if she finds out what you’ve done then you can wave goodbye to your relationship.

Just because she’s a bit flirty doesn’t mean she’s going to go off with someone else. Your jealousy may result in exactly what you fear.

If you don’t show any faith in her then you could push her into the arms of the first man who does show her some trust.

Rather than putting your girlfriend to the test, I would talk to her and explain why you find it hard when she flirts.

If she really does care for you, she’ll tone down her flirty behaviour to reassure you there is no reason to worry.

Anthony-Claret Onwutalobi
Anthony-Claret Onwutalobi
Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC and CEO of Portia Web Solutions. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.

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