Earlier today, the girlfriend of popular artiste, Wizkid responded to someone who asked if she was living together with him and she responded;
Live together ke? When he has not married me. At all
Her response was greeted with mixed reactions because it is almost a norm for girlfriends to move in with their man after a while of dating. A guy who I was seeing at a point in time asked me if I could move in with him when things get serious and I asked him why. His response though sensible, baffled me a bit. He said it would help us get to know ourselves better. When apart, we get to see only the nice part, the part we want the other to see but when you’ve been living together for a while, it opens your eyes to the hidden stuffs. Does she snore, does he scratch his balls and wears dirty boxers, does she urinate and not flush e.t.c.
These revelations have been called ‘pre-wedding shocks‘. A lot of couples have said their spouses changed almost immediately after marriage and they feel they are married to a completely different person. Is it that they changed or you are just seeing the real them. Their true selves when they are in their comfort zone and not trying to impress anyone.
On the other hand, is living with your partner right before marriage. For more conservative people, they believe it would give way to sinful acts and takes away the essence of marriage. Others believe a woman shouldn’t move in completely but can spend the weekends or other periods with him just to get closer…
What do you think, is it alright here in Nigeria, with all our morals and believes for a woman to move in and live with her man before marriage?