His dad could be my baby’s father

I’ve been sleeping with my boyfriend’s father for a while now and I’m pregnant and the baby could be his. The thing is, I’ve also been sleeping with my boyfriend. I’m scared as I’m only 19 and an undergraduate. I know what I did was wrong, but I don’t know what to do about it. My parents will kill me if they find out. Please help!

by e-mail.


Dear Lola,
First of all, you need to see a doctor to confirm the pregnancy. You can talk to them honestly about your situation and they can go through all your options with you. Anything you say will be treated in confidence. I can’t sugar-coat this one. It’s a mess. If you decide to keep the baby, are you going to come clean or will you lie to your boyfriend and make out the child is his when there’s a chance it’s his dad’s? If you do go through with the pregnancy, the only way of knowing for sure is to do a DNA test after the baby is born.

I don’t think you should be with this boy anyway. You obviously don’t love him if you can sleep with his dad. His father is despicable for sleeping with his son’s teenage girlfriend. Please see him for what he is – a horrible pervert. Yes, you’ve been silly, but that doesn’t mean you have to deal with this on your own. If you find it a bit daunting talking to your parent, discuss with your doctor and if you decide to keep the baby, you will have to tell family and friends. It might not feel like it now, but talking about it with a professional as well as a trusted friend or relative can help you to see things more clearly. Don’t isolate yourself. Accept all the support and help that’s offered.

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