Jay Williams, a successful video producer in Atlanta, is making headlines thanks to his personal life, in which he's fathered 34 children by 17 women. You read those figures correctly.Jay even has 9 additional children that he has embraced or adopted, which means he has a total of 43 children. Two of his 17 babymamas were best friends and got pregnant for him at the same time! His youngest child is 3, while the oldest is 26…
In a revealing letter written to spiritual and relationship expert Iyanla Vanzant, of OWN's Iyanla: Fix My Life fame, 44 year old Williams said he wants to be a better father. Williams told Iyanla that his relationships with his kids range from excellent to non-existent, and even Iyanla Vanzant was almost at a loss for where to begin. The first thing Iyanla had done was confront Williams with a physical representation of his responsibility by bringing him 34 dolls. She asks Williams to hold as many dolls as he can, to feel the weight of what he's created. But he could only hold 14."Let me ask you this question, Jay. Thirty-four children. At any point, did it dawn on you [that] this is too much?" Iyanla asks.
"No," Williams answers evenly.
When Iyanla asks Williams about using protection during sex, he insists that he did."I probably would have 200 kids if I didn't use condoms," he says. Williams says he never considered getting a vasectomy, either. Because he didn't want one.. I don't have a problem with what I created." As Iyanla continues to grill Williams in the above clip, he grows frustrated and sets one of the toys down, saying, "I'm tired of holding the dolls."
She hands it back to him:
"I'm sorry, as a mom, I don't get not to take care of my children, no matter what I'm feeling. I didn't get to just put them down because it was inconvenient."