True Peace in Africa cannot be achieved through war or Violence

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Searching through the entire precondition for human development, Peace is without doubt the most fundamental and indispensable. In its absence, it would be illusory to expect an improvement of the human condition.

Africa, a continent with contrasting beauty has faced tough situation from within and outside of its territories over centuries ago. This continent has fought wars, engaged in deadly bloodshed battle all in their attempt to rediscover themselves. This approach can never gain a true peace for Africa. Realizing true peace in Africa can only be achieved without war of any kind.

Over the past decades, a handful number of peacemakers and diplomats from and outside of Africa have talked on this subject “peace” and proffer a handy opinion on how to achieve it, but its positive impact is not yet overt in our beloved continent Africa, this devastating problem has disturbed our contemporary youth and our future leaders. In this literature, the idea of fighting wars to achieve peace is condemned and the underlying cause of war is delineated as first step to achieve a lasting peace in Africa. This highlight could serve a promissory advent of attaining peace without violence or war.[1]

In recent years, some of the most devastating wars have been fought in the horn of Africa. Although nobody has kept an account of casualties, the available estimates make unmistakably clear that; the loss of human life was enormous. Although enjoying a common language, religion, etc, some countries today are lands without a government and without any kind of civil society to speak of[2].

Conflicts between clans and sub-clans have reduced countries to such a degree of ‘ungovernability’, that even the task of distributing relief supplies could not be undertaken without massive intervention of foreign troops. What makes the situation particularly volatile is that, the problems of all countries are inter-linked and tend to flow across national boundaries. In West Africa, the example that comes most readily to mind is Liberia,[3] where to this day rival factions struggling for power are engaged in mortal combat, with untold consequences for the population. The fallout from this conflict has not spread neighboring Sierra Leone. Another country that has been ravaged by war is Chad[4]. There are also countries, which are characterized by heightened political tension, which the stuff of the future conflicts are often made. Not to be left out is religious extremism, which has paralyzed nations and shattered political stability. Virtually all of the conflicts owe their origins to a backlog of unresolved economic, social and political grievances, often complicated by ethnic or religious dimensions. As long as these underlying conditions prevail, whatever peace may be achieved is bound to be tenuous at best; quite possibly, it may be the lull before another war.

In this sense, it is difficult to name many countries that are truly at peace. "That war is destructive is obvious and requires no demonstration. It kills and maims, creates displacement on a massive scale, causes family disintegration, and traumatizes people, especially children perhaps scarring them for life". It also wreaks havoc on ‘infrastruction’ to destruction. No less significant is that it undermines political and social stability and makes it impossible for societies to be guided by a vision of the future, without which any strategy for human development over the long haul is unthinkable. It would be equally meaningless to talk about a peace divided, when there is no peace or where it is so brittle that it cannot be taken for granted. The search for peace must therefore be taken as a matter of the highest priority.

However, peace cannot be achieved by merely preaching sermons in praise of it. In one way or the other, the conflicts that have been devastating countries are reflections of economic, social and political needs that have suffered neglect for too long[5].

In many of these countries access to power and resources is highly uneven and the opportunities for seeking redress through a peaceful political process are minimal. In such circumstances, arms appear as the only solution. Therefore, unless the root causes of poverty, inequality and injustice are tackled, the chances of durable peace must remain fragile.

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Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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Africans! Rise and take that which belongs to you -Anthony-Claret Onwutalobi

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A lot has been said and written in the last years about Africans and Africa as a whole. Most times, it is either we are seen as continent under evil spell or magical curse. Or some experts would say it is a repository lands for cheap labor another way of saying it is a slave market. Some viewed it is as an under-utilized rich land full of resources but still begging for exploration and exploitation. It was also described as a continent congenitally sunk in manifold calamities of natural and man-made disasters such as, hunger, debt and civil war and of recent of health epidemics like the HIV/AIDS virus. Other groups said it is still a primitive continent in need of sympathy from the civilized world because its inhabitants, though human are of a lower race and are therefore intellectually ill equipped to manage themselves in a civilized competitive world. In fact this last myth was adequately reflected by European writers in the 19th century who commonly refer to Africans as people of 'the lower race. This thus, has deeply affected the African people in different ways. Most often, Africans tend to appreciate and worship achievement of other races and treat with contempt and condescension on our African men and women who have equally in their capacity as African have achieved equal fame of counterpart degree.

This writer feels that, time has come for the African man; to forget and cast behind him his hero worship and adoration of other races, and to start out immediately to create and emulate heroes of his own. We must begin to canonize our own martyrs and elevate to positions of fame and honor African men and women who have made their distinct contributions to our African history before and after the colonization of Africa. Great men like Julius Nyerere is worthy of sainthood alongside of Kwame Nkrumah, Nnamdi Azikiwe, Jomo Kenyatta, Albert John Lutuli, Chike Obi, , Tafawa balewa and Ken saro-wiwa etc. They are all entitled to the halo of martyrdom and sainthood with no less glory than that of the martyrs or saints of any other race. Nelson Mandela, Philip Emegwali, Wole Soyinka, Mohamed El Baradei, Kofi Annan, Ahmed H. Zewail, Naguib Mahfouz, Wangari Maathai, Anwar Sadat, Desmond Tutu, Max Theiler, Allan M. Cormack, Nadine Gordimer, Sydney Brenner, F.W. de Klerk, J. M. Coetzee, John Kufuor, Emeka Anyaoku, Margaret Ekpo, and Jakaya kikwete’s brilliancy as educators, politicians, peacemaker, scientists and statesmen entitled them to the highest place as heroes among men.

In recent years, Africa has produced countless numbers of men and women, in war and in peace, whose luster and bravery outshines that of any other people. Then why not see good and perfection in ourselves? As we condemn without reservation bad things happening in Africa today. We must equally inspire a literature and promulgate a doctrine of our own without any apologies to the powers that be to speak about our heroes and heroine. The right is the Africa man's and Africa's. Let contrary sentiments and cross opinions go to the winds. Consistent negative reporting of mainstream media and failure of our own politicians recently is just a weapon of the enemy to defeat the hopes of emerging and young energetic African statesmen and we must say no this ideology and practice.

What is to be done?

Time has come when we need to speak for ourselves and create our own reporting that serves us right. We are entitled to our own opinions and not obligated to or bound by the opinions of others. As an African, do not think that you are inferior. Race is just an idea. It has been proven that it does not exist2 .If others laugh at you return the laughter to them; if they mimic you return the compliment with equal force. They have no more right to dishonor, disrespect or disregard your feelings and manhood than you have in dealing with them. Honor them when they honor you; ignore them when they vilely treat you. But do this without violence as Martin Luther our great African hero taught us during their civil right campaign in the 1960’s. Remember that such people who mistreat you or see you as subhuman are suffering from some kind of complex and their arrogance is but skin deep and an assumption that has no foundation in morals or in Law.

Awakening Call

This essay is an awakening call to all Africans and friends of Africa. It is summoning Africans to rise to the challenge of undertaking well-meaning, well-defined and well-positioned actions for the rescue of Africa from self-extermination. It is asking Africans to put on deck, every vision, every mind, every hand and every resource at the disposal of Africa as the planet earth and our world progress into the new millennium. This urgent demand is necessary for the singular and sacred task of setting into motion the yet to be tapped hidden energies of the African race in the Diaspora and on the continent. This most urgent call is important in order to help all Africans to seek the truth, the knowledge and the understanding about the errors of the past and the foolishness of the present.

This writer believes that it is only by knowing and understanding the truth about Africa’s painful situations that the first crucial step towards recovery can be taken. It is only by coming into full awareness of the problems facing Africa that the spiritual and mental energy that can set Africans in motion on the well-treaded path of civilization and emancipation can be released. Therefore, let the emancipated Africans begin in earnest to articulate strategies that befit the challenges of the present and of the future. These strategies, without any gainsaying, ought to be guided by informed and well-balanced insights that are focused on clearly defined intentions and built around a specific single goal. The goal at this point in history for Africa should be the total emancipation of Africans from mental and psychological enslavement as evidenced in the high level of racial inferiority complex that is comfortable with social inequalities, economic slavery, cultural ape-like mentality, and conventional racial inequalities and global injustices. It is important for all enlightened Africans to ensure that this new goal should not be allowed to degenerate into another make-believe emancipation project of the independence era. Let allemancipated souls in Africa resolve to make this project a real and genuine action that can set the African race free from the over-burdensome vagaries of nature, from unfounded cultural fears and superstitions, from the fictitious economic, political and cultural enslavement by the rest of the world, from wicked tyranny of the past and of the present and from the current indefensible prevailing high state of ignorance in the continent. These are the roots of all the problems facing Africa. Africans need to wake up from their slumbers to challenge the diseases of ignorance and intellectual laziness.

This is a call for action towards total spiritual, intellectual, psychological, political, social and economic liberation. This is a call seeking for pragmatic actions from all enlightened souls as we shake off the indignities of the past millennium and as we embrace the reality of a universal idea, knowledge and wisdom of liberty, equality and justice that is freely on offer in the new millennium. It is important for all Africans to see and welcome the new millennium as a precious gift wrapped with the accumulated wisdom and knowledge of the last three thousand memorable years of mankind. Africans should see and accept this gift as a ready-made package that is freely available to all seekers of truth. This gift of true knowledge is the only recipe that can lift up the spirit and liberate all human races from the vicissitude of the paralyzing state of nature and from the wickedness and inhumanity of man to man.

Africa needs to see this period as a golden opportunity to be seized with both hands as we reclaim and rebuild our mangled and trampled identities. The sons and daughters of Africa should claim this new millennium as their own precious gift from Mother Nature. However, Africa needs not adopt the strategy of war, murder, rape, looting and arson, like the imperial empire builders of the past. The same and even better glory and honor can still be attained by peace and love. Let all the sons and daughters of Africa solemnly declare in words and by actions that, Africa's time and light have come to shine and that Africa is ready to share with the world her unique divine nature of love, humane kindness and peace.

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Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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Couple kill 3-day-old baby to cover up pre-marital sex

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To cover up evidence of their pre-marital sex which is an abomination according to Sharia Laws, an young couple in Kano State, Aminu Mustapha and Faiza Haruna, have strangulated a 3-day-old baby girl in Rijiyar Lemo in Fagge local government area of the state.

According to Weekly Trust, the couple got married two months ago without anyone knowing that the 17-year-old wife was pregnant until she gave birth to a baby girl last weekend.

To hide the fact that they had engaged in pre-marital sex before they got married, they allegedly killed the baby and buried her in their neighbourhood.

A neighbour said Faiza delivered the baby at home without the help of any medical personnel.

"During the pregnancy, she didn’t attend any antenatal clinic. It was we that assisted her during child labour. She delivered the baby safely and we assisted her with all the necessary cleaning up.

Hours after giving birth, Faiza started telling people that the baby was sick. We advised her to take the baby to hospital but three days later, she and her husband returned home without the baby.

We drew the attention of Hisbah officials and they were arrested because we suspected foul play."

It was at the Hisbah office that Faiza confessed that she killed the baby.

The Hisbah commandant in Fagge local government, Ustaz Salisu Umar, said the couple killed the baby to cover up their premarital affairs.

In her confession, Faiza said:

"I gave birth to the baby and killed her myself. I did so to avoid embarrassment from members of our community. I was impregnated by my husband before we got married.

I didn’t use anything; it was my bare hands that I used in killing her.

I went into my room when my husband was not around and strangulated her."

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Anthony-Claret Ifeanyi Onwutalobi

Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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10 hot exercises that lead to better sex

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Our major reason for going to the gym is to keep fit, but do you know that work outs also translate to better sex?

This is because the kind of work out routine you choose, ultimately impacts on your love life whether you're aware of it or not.

With that in mind, here are 10 exercises you might consider trying out next time you go for your gym class:

    Strength training: According to Nadia Murdock, a fitness expert, push ups, tricep dips and lunges are some of the moves that go into a traditional strength training class. Also, these routines sculpt a strong and fit body making creative love making moves easier to achieve.

    Ab attack: Besides being essential for holding a few Kama Sutra style moves, a strong core is also very sexy. Murdock says: "The core acts as the center of the body and supports the back as well as other full body movements". Most ab attack classes comprises traditional moves with and without weights.

    Zumba: This exercise will help you find your sexual beat. "Not only is this dance workout fun but it's also an excellent way to tone the entire body. By including full body traditional moves like squats and lunges you are getting a workout from head to toe," says Murdock. To practice this, choose a song that really gets you going and perform it in the bedroom.

    Barre: For those who don't know, one of things that lead to great sex is your ability to control your pelvic floor and the strength and flexibility around your hips. Barre is known for its ability to improve flexibility, posture and tone muscles. It is also one of the best ways to not only get in shape but also enhance your performance in the bedroom.

    Yoga: The best thing about a yoga class is that you can walk away feeling centered and calmed which could make you feel closer to your partner especially if you did the class together. Also, practicing yoga can help increase flexibility, energy and athletic performance.

    Aerial Yoga: Antigravity yoga combines yoga, Pilates, aerial acrobatics and calisthenics into one. According to Murdock, "This is ideal for participants looking to achieve a unique full body workout. One of the advantages of this style of yoga is developing new body skills. You may find your body moving in ways you never knew it could!"

    Pole dancing: "Many pole dancing studios offer classes from striptease to belly dancing allowing you to take these techniques into the bedroom. This workout will help to increase flexibility, boost your confidence and tone muscles!" says Murdock. So why don't you entice your partner with a few tricks you may have picked up in class?

    Ballet: Add a touch of grace to your night-time activities with ballet-infused fitness. "A typical class is more subtle in helping create long, lean muscles. Ideal for someone looking for a low-impact class," Murdock says.

    High Interval Training (H.I.I.T.): This exercise is ideal for wild and sexy nights in the bedroom, your cardio and endurance level should be at peak performance. "H.I.I.T keeps the heart healthy and strong due to the anaerobic zone (without oxygen) you are often in during this workout," says Murdock. This means you can go longer and stronger during bedroom activities.

    Pilates: Practicing Pilates on a regular basis will help you achieve improved core strength, flexibility and balance, Murdock says. Tackling a standing position might be easier to achieve after a few sessions.

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Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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Baby found alive in car 14 hours after crash in Utah river

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SPANISH FORK, Utah (AP) — A baby survived a car crash in a frigid Utah river after being strapped in a car seat upside-down for about 14 hours before being found by a fisherman, officers said.

The 18-month-old girl's condition was upgraded from critical to stable but critical condition at a Salt Lake City hospital, but her 25-year-old mother, Lynn Groesbeck of Springville, was found dead in the car, police said Sunday.

The fisherman discovered the car on its top about 12:30 p.m. Saturday in the Spanish Fork River in Spanish Fork, about 50 miles south of Salt Lake City, police Lt. Matt Johnson said.

Investigators believe the wreck occurred about 10:30 p.m. Friday when a resident near the accident scene reported hearing something, Johnson said. The resident was unable to find anything out of the ordinary when checking the area near Provo.

The infant was found hanging upside down above the river that flowed through the car, and the water never reached high enough to touch her, Johnson told the Deseret News newspaper. Her mother was found in the driver's seat.

The car struck a cement barrier on the bridge and careened into the river, investigators said. Police are unsure why the car left the roadway, and the Utah Highway Patrol is assisting in the accident investigation.

Family members told police that Groesbeck left a nearby home in Salem about 10 a.m. Friday and was en route to her Springville home near Provo when the crash occurred. Family spokeswoman Jill Sanderson did not immediately answer phone calls for comment Sunday.

Three police officers and four firefighters who entered the river were released after treatment for hypothermia at a hospital.

Police said they wouldn't release further details Sunday unless the baby's condition changes. The baby's name was not released.

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Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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Lawyer for father of ‘Jihadi John’ quits the case

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Kuwait City (AFP) – The Kuwaiti lawyer representing the father of alleged Islamic State group executioner "Jihadi John" said Sunday after filing lawsuits for his client that he has now withdrawn from the case.

"I have decided to withdraw from the case for personal reasons," Salem al-Hashash told a news conference lasting just a few minutes.
He provided no further details and refused to answer questions.

Jassem Emwazi, the father of Mohammed Emwazi who is thought to be the knife-wielding IS executioner, hired Hashash last week to file cases against those allegedly spreading false rumours about his son and the family.

Reading from a written statement, Hashash said that he filed several lawsuits on Sunday against unspecified parties for slander against his client.

In the statement, the lawyer said Jassem Emwazi is a "British national who has no relation with Kuwait" except that he visits the Gulf state to see his mother.

Hashash reiterated that "so far, Western security agencies have not provided any evidence to prove that Mohammed Emwazi is Jihadi John", who is accused of killing several Western hostages.

He said that the stories and rumours published about him are "untrue and baseless".

Hashash did not say what will happen to the lawsuits he has filed now that he has withdrawn from the case.

Last week, he told Kuwaiti daily Al-Qabas that his client was interrogated by the interior ministry for three hours before being released.

Alleged executioner Mohammed Emwazi was born in Kuwait to a stateless family of Iraqi origin. His parents moved to Britain in 1993 after their hopes of obtaining Kuwaiti citizenship were quashed.

Emwazi visited Kuwait several times, the last time between January 18 and April 26, 2010, Al-Qabas said.

A year later, he was denied entry to Kuwait after his name came up during investigations into attacks in Britain.

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Anthony-Claret Ifeanyi Onwutalobi

Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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NIGERIA: Housewife Clubs Husband To Death In Enugu

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 The people of the Isiuzo Local Government Area of Enugu State have been thrown into mourning after a housewife murdered her husband in the area.

The deceased, Elijah Agbo, who hailed from Imirike Agu village in the Udenu Local Government Area of the state, was said to be relaxing in the living room of his house with his wife, Grace, and daughter, Deborah, in the evening of March 5, 2015.

It was learnt that around 9pm, the housewife, Grace, asked the daughter to go to bed. Shortly after Deborah retired to bed, the girl was said to have heard a loud cry from her father. The cry was said to be accompanied with a thud, which reportedly made Deborah to rush to the living room, where she saw her father in a pool of blood.

It was learnt that Grace had used a heavy stick to smash her husband’s head immediately Deborah stepped out of the living room. Elijah was said to have died immediately.

The Police Public Relations Officer, Ebere Amaraizu, said the housewife had been arrested. Amaraizu said, “The police have yet to determine why Grace murdered her husband.”

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Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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40% of men don’t know they are not the father’s of their first child – Lagos DNA expert says

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 Dr Oyinwola Oni, a Lagos based DNA expert says that 40% of men do not know that they are not the biological fathers of their first child. Dr Oni said this while sharing his experience on how a former girlfriend wanted to force a set of twins on him. What he told City People below is quite interesting.
"How I got into doing DNA is an interesting story which all man should learn from. I lost my wife about 6 years ago. About that time there was a lady I have known for long in Nigeria but who now lives in the UK. I now said I will be in Germany on so,so date , can you come and see me? She came in November and we were together for four days. She left. I left. I got back home. I lost my wife four weeks after that. Then she became pregnant. She didn't tell me. She didn't tell me. She waited for a year. After a year, she said she just wanted me to know what she did in Germany, that she now has twins for me-a boy and a girl. I said now that I can't say anything. I am bereaved.
Give me time. How do you want my in-laws to react. Do you know at the 1st year birthday, I was in London with a friend. We did one year birthday for the kids. They were pulling trolleys around with the baby. After 2 years I bought her a car. After 4 years of loosing my wife, I now said let us now review the situation and see whether we can marry. As God will have it, I knew in my mind that I will do DNA before I marry her. Infact, we were even getting a room ready for her in my house. The carpenter was working. She was in the UK dictating what she wanted. I traveled to the UK. I carried her mother. Before I left, I told my brother this is what is happening. I am going to carry this woman to go and DNA if these children were mine. I will now ask them to come for the Ileya festival. We got there she was happy. I took her sample, took the children's sample. We submitted the sample at the DNA center. We went to Italy together. We went for dinner together. Then I came back. When she was going home one night, I said let me check my mail. I did. The result of the DNA had come. I was not the father of the twins. Haa! I failed with 0%. If not for the medical lab scientist, those children will be in my house now, with me thinking they are my children. I can tell you this happens to so many men. Do you know that 40 percent of most of the 1st born don't belong to their so called biological fathers, all over the world. Reason? Most of there ladies often have one or two boyfriends"he said
Asked why the woman decided to con him into believing he fathered the children, he said
"I told her, lady from the result, I am not the father of your kids but I will help you. I explained to her, we met in November, you gave birth in August, perfect. That is the time. You can't force that on any clinical person. Any pregnancy month minus 3 will give to the AAA. We got 9(Day 9). I asked her a few questions. So how come? She was to confess to me that because I said she should take the next available flight from Heathrow to Cologne, the first flight was 6pm and where she was, was very far. She had to stay with a male friend that was living close to Heathrow and that was her day 10. She said one thing led to another and she had sex with the guy. She came to meet me on the 11th and she ovulated around that period. She didn't know. Atimes women know, atimes they don't. A woman ovulates only one day in a month and it last for about 10 hours. And sperm can stay in a woman for 48 hours. So a lady can have 2 to 3 types of sperm in her system and when she now ovulates, any sperm that is fertilised can immediately hit that egg. That was what happened to her. So, the sex she had on the 9th of that month, the sperm was still there till 11th when she now ovulated. Before we met on the evening of the 11th, the egg had been fertilised. There are so many homes where they have this kind of problems"

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Anthony-Claret is a software Engineer, entrepreneur and the founder of Codewit INC. Mr. Claret publishes and manages the content on Codewit Word News website and associated websites. He's a writer, IT Expert, great administrator, technology enthusiast, social media lover and all around digital guy.
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Dignity of Marriage by Anthony-Claret Onwutalobi

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Our times have been portrayed as enlightened, scientific, technological, secular, non-religious, post-Christian and post-traditional. Each of these issues, when more fully expounded, conveys some useful insight into the nature of the modern world and its digression from our valuable traditions.Marriage is a classic example of this tradition.
In these recent days, it is evident that, the significance of marriage is slowly losing ground, considering the rate of divorce and marriage abuses and scandals. These recent development has however question the concept of marriage.

In this article, we explore the importance of marriage and its dignity. We intend to reinstate the meaning of marriage. Perhaps one should not expect the many-faceted character of marriage and its modernity to be wholly contained or fully described in this article.
Marriage can be described as a universal culture. It is an attitude of life and an official union between two individuals, who commit to one another with the expectation of a stable and lasting intimate relationship that is not hindered by either religion, race or background.[1] The mystery of marriage is a sacred nuptial attitude of mind and body consented by both tradition and religion in spite of their pertinent forms of rituals and practices. Fundamentally, these components embrace a sturdy view of its sacredness and reverence to human life. They also agree that its accomplishment and end blessing is typically underlie with the gift of love; which it's evident is amazingly bestow on procreation. However, procreation is not the absolute knot but just a manifest of this attitude.
In this article however, this age-long tradition is again revisited, where Secularization and disrespect for m arriage is drastically increasing.  

 In the first chapter, we illustrate with an example what marriage is not and the fundamental causes of divorce and separation. In the second chapter, we will re-establish the meaning of marriage and it's enriching blessing. Finally, we highlight the benefits and dignity of marriage to humanity.

What Marriage is not:
When you turn on your television, radio, or read any newspapers, you will be awfully surprised of what you watch or read recently about marriages. The constant rate of abuses and re-definition of marriage calls for an urgent attention. The rubric of marriage is effectively disappearing. Most disturbing case is the rate of divorce.  In attempt to know the causes of this problem, we conducted a research and found out that, recently marriage has lost its meaning. It is now used for selfish purposes. Marriage is no more rooted in love but seem as an avenue for sexual accomplishment, procreation or material acquisition.

To elucidate on this findings, let's consider a story of one man who was given a chance to choose a wife and a life a partner in a given country. This man absorbed with a selfish motives, poked around the houses in their city for the quest of finding just a bed mate, the quest for complementary sexuality is burning in his hand. In his passion for a mere momentarily sexual satisfaction, he first woos all the nearest ladies around his house and move on to the other part of the city.

This gentleman met with a lot of beauty queens. The more he looks the more he found more beauties and the more confused he becomes. Understanding that he is in his search for a soul mate and a wife to be, he just couldn't make up his mind. At last, He was attracted with one party-lass he met at the pub. Contentedly, this man left the pub happily fondling the lady. In a mid way approaching his home, he had grown tired of everything. He became annoyed. At the final point, he broke into tears and disappointment: he asked himself¦œWhy did I pick a lady from the pub? I don't want this lady after all!

He was frustrated with his choice. The man had chosen something he thought he wanted to be his soul mate without genuine seeking for the nuts and bolts of marriage. The gentleman was fantasizing with the derived benefits of marriage not knowing what he really wanted; he went through life with an inner hunger unsatisfied. He did not work for the genuine basis of marriage. So he failed in his quest. This analogy is like a lazy student that wants to enjoy being branded as a distinction student without genuine hard work of study.

There are many people traveling through life like this. They came mournfully to the end of their likes, unsatisfied, unfulfilled, sadly suspecting that they never found what they really wanted in marriage. Marriage performed on the same umbrella of intent ends up in this likes of un-fulfillment and dissatisfaction. This is an abuse of marriage.

The True meaning of Marriage:
From the example above, we see a lot of people everyday crossing the bridge of marriage with the same intent and failing in between because they do not understand the meaning of marriage. For traditional Christians, marriage is ordained and sanctified by God as a means of pro-creation; it is the summit of life and a Divine culture for humanity. The bible testifies its blessing from the authority of God with his injunction to œSubdue the earth, be fruitful and multiply.

When marriage is conducted for what it stands for, great things happen between the couples. It is said that when a man finds a woman who supports him with her love, many of his fears and anxieties disappear. œIf she loves me, I must be worth something. With her, he can plan and face anything. The same fate applies to a woman, as a young lady who has found a man who loves her, a man who is sensitive to her emotions and makes allowances for them. It gives her a sense of stability to know that he appreciates her for what she is, even when she could be plain and homely. When he entrusts himself to her, she realizes that she is not only a sexual being but also a person.

In this way, we realize the dignity of marriage. God had blessed man and given him a woman to live with; He had blessed him to be fruitful and multiply, he had endowed him with the natural ability to subdue the earth and be master of all that created. Our present perception of marriage and its implications must have a different touch. Marriage cannot be viewed like any other ordinary contract with no obligation, not just to produce babies or to have freedom of sexual fulfillment. Marriage is more than all these things

The healing power of marriage:
Marriage needs to be healing so as to remedy incompetent and defective parenting. If marriage were not healing, it is doubtful whether the human race, especially the male, would remain in reasonable mental and emotional health. Men, for all their muscles and aggressiveness, need women's support.

In fact, it is common knowledge that men need women more than women need men. Women are better equipped to suffer and absorb emotional shock. They weep more, but in the end, more men commit suicide. Women produce babies and look after them but they also look after men, most of whom are œgrown-up little boys after all – as any woman will attest. So marriage is healing for men. Women are healed too by being stabilized. When a woman is loved, she cares about every thing connected with her marriage and puts up with anything for the sake of love. She will trust her husband to the end of the earth and be in telepathic communication with him all day long. She bears his losses and adversities as if they were her own and, in doing so, support him.

Marriage is dignified through what is called complementary sexuality. This was first put simply in the famous words: œIt is not good for the man to be alone. (Gen 2:18). It means that the indefinable essence of maleness and femaleness, over and above the physical differences, supplants something, each to the other that makes people whole.

The dignity of marriage cannot be over stressed. The gift came through a special arrangement of God. Marriage figures prominently in the teaching of Jesus Christ. He gave His first sign of divinity at the marriage feast at Cana. He spoke strongly about what marriage was ˜in the beginning.'

For the believers of God's WORD, the grace of matrimony is an introduction to Christ Himself as they encounter each other. The man and woman, conscious of Christ in their marriage, notice that a lot of their sexual temptations have disappeared. They find that their physical love is elevated to a spiritual level, and if they are prevented from physical expression, they bear this want for the sake of each other. The dignity of marriage must be preserved. The healing effects of marriage do not come automatically as couples have to work for what they get. Marriage is not propped up by sexual complementarities or even by the sacrament of marriage, especially when the parties know little about living with each other except to fight. Anyone who thinks that marriage will solve his problems may find them aggravated especially if he fails to realize that it goes beyond sex.

Conclusion:
If you think that marriage is only for sex and children, you could be in danger of creating a bad home. The success of marriage hinges on overcoming the odds. It embraces difficulties, pain and joy. It makes sacrifices, accommodates excuses, excludes suspicion, involves the giving of unconditional love and is summed in understanding one another. Our society should continue to encourage marriage in order to maintain the delightful traditions of holy matrimony handed to us by the Super-sensible Being. The emphasis on the dignity of marriage has a solid support of traditions, religions, and governments. We must stand firm to cherish this valuable gift of marriage: a legacy from beyond the grave. The fire should not grow dim in our time.

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References:

[1] African Knowledgebase " Marriage" D.A ( 15/02/06)

[2] Chrsitain Marriage, Theology Question: Marriage that are broken

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Jonathan is a better candidate, Olejeme tells Nigerian women

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The Deputy Chairman, Finance Committee of the PDP Presidential Campaign Organization, Dr. Ngozi Olejeme recently reflected on the acts of courage and determination made by women in the fight for equality so far, praising President Goodluck Jonathan for elevating women in the country.

 “We have witnessed a transformation in women’s participation in public life. More women are exercising leadership in politics and business, more girls are going to school” she said.

In her message for International Women's Day 2015, Olejeme urged women to make an informed decision when choosing the next president of the country.

“Nigeria is moving in the right direction. Women have received reasonable positions in government at the federal level. President Jonathan is promoting girl education in remote villages. We have the environment conducive to business investments and trade. We have policies that are expanding the economy. There is the rule of law in this country. The Jonathan led People’s Democratic Party government is committed to fiscal prudence” she said.

Olejeme advised Nigerian men to move beyond rhetoric and take action to improve the quality of life of women by removing the many obstacles that impede full and equal participation by women at so many levels.

“Women must exercise their choices; they must participate in politics, have income, and live in societies free from violence and discrimination. Women must have access to education and play a full role in the communities' decision-making processes” she said.

Olejeme also urged women to redouble their efforts to achieve gender equality, and stressed the need for Nigerian women to be guided by a three- word motto: Together We Build.

“We must keep our eyes on the long -range prize for self and country. We must take an active part in the coming elections and structures that will emerge from these elections”.

On what she knows would take Nigeria forward this month, Olejeme advised Nigerian women to vote for Dr. Goodluck Jonathan.

 “A vote for PDP is a vote for progressive policies, high management capacity and vision for serious challenges besetting Nigeria. It is also a vote for inspiring health facilities, high quality education and better future” she added.

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